Opinion

July 22, 2020

Being the only Black person in the room

“When someone is racist or discriminatory, call them out. Every single time.”


I’ve worked in tech in the UK for over six years, and for five of those I was the only Black person in the organisations I worked in. I started thinking about how I would have liked those companies to approach this moment, the frank conversations I would have liked to be able to have. 

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