Opinion

September 14, 2022

Is it worth sacrificing your marriage for your startup?

Why should you have to choose between your relationship and your startup? Coupleness CEO Jenny Holmström explains how to strike a balance


Jenny Holmström, cofounder and CEO of Coupleness

You’ve got a choice. 

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