A few years ago, I lost my dad to a kitesurfing accident.
Opinion
November 17, 2022
What not to say to someone who has just been laid off
Think about comforting someone who has been laid off like you’d comfort someone who has lost family
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Anh-Tho Chuong is the cofounder of Lago.

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