Analysis

July 25, 2022

What's it like to run and scale a startup with your romantic partner?

What is running a startup with your romantic partner really like? We asked the founder couples in the know.


Naomi Ackerman

10 min read

Sophia and Will who run Gen Home together

“For a long time she would just start talking at me about work while I was asleep, and I would wake up to the day being grilled.” 

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Janine and Chanti
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Sophie and Phillipe
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Former CERN particle physicist Dr Elina Berglund Scherwitzl, 38, and her scientist husband, Dr Raoul Scherwitzl, 35, co-CEOs of fertility app Natural Cycles
Elina and Raoul
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Naomi Ackerman

Naomi Ackerman is a freelance business journalist and tweets from @nomiackerman.

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