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Opinion

August 29, 2025

Radical candour can ruin your culture: here’s what to do about it

Feedback is supposed to be a vehicle for growth

Mathias Meyer

5 min read

Meaningful feedback can help propel people and their work forward. But implementing a good way of giving it is still one of the biggest challenges growing companies face. 

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Mathias Meyer

Mathias Meyer is a founder turned executive leadership coach and author. He co-authored the recently published book 'The Intentional Organization', a leadership and management guide for founders, executives and senior leaders.

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