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March 22, 2021

How not to lose your sh*t as a founder

When leading a team, you can encounter plenty of emotional tripwires. But how can founders de-escalate conflict and problem solve?


Sehaam Cyrene

5 min read

Sehaam Cyrene

As a founder, when stuff goes great, it’s fantastic. But when stuff goes wrong, you feel every reverb of it. And not just your own mistakes — those of your direct reports and peers too. 

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