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November 11, 2022

How to give compassionate leave

Employers need to acknowledge the mental toll grief can take, and create a specific policy to support employees through it


In 2020, many employees at Farewill — a company offering will-writing, probate and cremation services — lost people who were close to them, and asked the company for compassionate leave. At the time, Farewill, like many startups, didn’t have a dedicated policy for bereavement, so it decided to make one.

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Miriam Partington

Miriam Partington was a senior reporter at Sifted, based in Berlin. She covered the DACH region and the future of work, and wrote Startup Life , a weekly newsletter on what it takes to build a startup.

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