Analysis

December 18, 2023

‘I felt lost and empty’: Founders share their exit blues stories

Exiting isn’t all champagne and party poppers


Emma Obanye

Things were good for Emma Obanye immediately after she left her fan engagement platform BuddyBounce following an exit to Crowdmix, a social app for music fans, in 2016. She moved to Thailand with her partner and began working on a new business idea. 

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Johan Nordenström, exited marketing company Kaplan in 2018. 
Johan Nordenström
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Emma Obanye
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Jonny Plein, who sold startup Pouch, a browser extension for discount codes, in 2019.
Jonny Plein
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Kai Nicol-Schwarz

Kai Nicol-Schwarz was a senior reporter at Sifted. He covered AI and UK tech.

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