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September 21, 2022

How it really feels to exit your startup — and how to move on: From founders who've been there

Having a startup is like having a kid; at some point, it's time for them to leave home


Naomi Ackerman

10 min read

Romi Savova, PensionBee CEO, and her children at the London Stock Exchange

With one exit, Ben Medlock made enough money to never have to work again. 

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An image of Philip Stehlik, cofounder of fintech Taulia.
Philip Stehlik
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Photo of Ben Medlock in his Swiftkey days
Ben Medlock in his Swiftkey days
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An image of Sten Tamkivi, who was one of Skype's very early employees
Sten Tamkivi
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Naomi Ackerman

Naomi Ackerman is a freelance business journalist and tweets from @nomiackerman.

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