While the mental health challenges of working within a startup are well documented, the emotional cost of how relationships change across your team as you scale can come as a surprise.

Opinion
June 28, 2023
The emotional cost of scaling a startup
While the mental health challenges at startups are well-known, the emotional cost of scaling a team is less understood
4 min read
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Jing Ouyang is cofounder and COO of British healthtech Patchwork Health.

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