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February 20, 2023

What are dating apps doing to stop future 'Tinder swindlers' on their platforms?

Dating startups have more to worry about than creepy messages: a pandemic of so-called "romance scams" is conning users out of millions


Anna Freeman

6 min read

Credit: Darren Lawrence, Unsplash

Romance fraud is on the rise — and it’s causing a massive headache for European dating startups.

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Anna Freeman

Anna Freeman is a freelance reporter based in Barcelona. She tweets from @AnnaLouiseFreem

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