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April 14, 2021

How to support parents at your startup

Out with free drinks, in with childcare support: five ways to look after the parents in your company


After months of working from home while looking after two children, Sarah Hesz made a great escape.

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Tina Nayak, cofounder of useristics and startup mentor at Silicon Allee in Berlin.
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Brett Wigdortz OBE founded TeachFirst in 2002, and tiney in 2002.
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Sophie Guibaud says her current company, OpenPayd, give her the flexibility and support she needs to be a working mother.
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Miriam Partington

Miriam Partington was a senior reporter at Sifted, based in Berlin. She covered the DACH region and the future of work, and wrote Startup Life , a weekly newsletter on what it takes to build a startup.

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