James Routledge, founder of Sanctus

Opinion

March 14, 2025

Founders, before you scale, you’ve got to learn to grieve

Any founder building a company needs to get comfortable with loss and leaving things behind

James Routledge

5 min read

Startups and change go hand in hand. The people who build them have to be able to grow quickly for the startup to reach its potential, and founders are pushed to change during their time building a company no matter what their personal story might be.

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James Routledge

James Routledge is an entrepreneur, writer and coach. He is the founder of Sanctus, Author of 'Mental Health at Work' and coach to startup founders who want to scale and enjoy the ride.

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